6 Tips When You Move In Together

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It’s a big step to move in with your lover. You gain someone to come home to at the expense of space and freedom when you move in together. But, if you’re serious, it’ll have to happen sooner or later.

Regardless of what you gain, it can sometimes feel like you’re losing a lot. Use these pointers to make moving feel like you’re gaining far more than you’re losing.

6 Tips to remember when you are planning to move in together

1. Make No Assumptions

Before making any major decisions, discuss each piece of the puzzle with your partner, including the ones you don’t think you need to know about. The last thing you want is for there to be complete stillness; everything should be discussed. Moving is one of the most difficult things you can do as a couple. Leave nothing unsaid to add to the exam.

2. Make an effort to compromise       

You have a limited amount of space to work with. That area has now been divided. Assume you own the apartment and your spouse is moving in with you. That isn’t to say that your partner will be asked to get rid of all of their belongings and only use yours. Assume the inverse is true, and you’re the one who’s moving in. That isn’t to say you should expect your partner to empty out their apartment to make room for your belongings. Discuss what should stay and what should go, and try to establish a balance. If you find yourself retaining everything, talk to your partner about it and make sure they feel like they have a say in what stays, even if they’re the one moving in.

3. Recognize when it’s time to call it a day on a disagreement

Your partner has a beautiful dining room set that their grandmother gave them. However, you enjoy your dining room set. You, on the other hand, have already opted to keep your bed, living room couch, and television. You, too, want to keep your dining room set and begin to press for it. It’s critical to put yourself in your partner’s shoes at this point. Is your collection as sentimental as mine? If not, then perhaps this is one debate that isn’t worth having. It’s fine to disagree, but try to remain sensible and sympathetic throughout the discussion.

4. Create distinct areas

It’s simple to say that sharing a studio apartment with your boyfriend will be OK. In practice, though, it is far more difficult. You’ll be sharing one room, and there won’t be any time for each of you to be alone. The fact that you love your partner does not diminish the desire for some alone time. Before you move in, decide out what area can be yours, no matter where you are. If you can find a one-bedroom apartment within your budget, you’ll know that at the very least, if you need some alone time, you can go to the bedroom while your mate is in the other room.

If your economy only allows for studio apartments, see if there is another option within or outside the complex. If the building has a pleasant seating area outdoors, you may spend some time there when you need some peace and quiet.

5. Before you make the move, figure out your financial situation

You wouldn’t discuss the rent with your housemates after you moved in. That, as well as utilities and amenities, would be figured out ahead of time. Discuss your financial priorities with your partner. Perhaps you’d like to discuss opening a joint bank account? If that’s too much of a leap for the time being, you could want to use your own account. In any case, figure out what works best for you so that you’re both paying your bills equitably and neither of you feels cheated. Remember that your monthly expenses include more than just your rent.

6. A night on the couch is not the same as a date night

Sure, it’s lovely to stay home and cuddle on a nightly basis. However, those nights in change when they occur on a regular basis. When you can watch Netflix and relax every night, it takes on a whole new meaning. Remember to schedule date nights that are different from what you do the rest of the week. If you’re the type of couple who doesn’t enjoy going out for a night on the town, it’s fine to remain in. But make sure those nights aren’t the same as your couch potato nights. Make your own pasta or invite some pals over for a double date board game night.

By moving in with your lover, you may lose some independence and isolation. You receive someone to come home to who makes you feel happy, safe, and comfortable in exchange. Though it may take some effort to get to that comfortable spot, it will be worth it in the end when you can snuggle on your sofa knowing that you’re a team.

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