Being a guy used to imply bringing home the bacon, knowing how to replace a tyre, and battling to protect your family.
The idea of “how to be a man” has become a little more hazy in recent years. In fact, gender roles appear to be more of a personal taste, and some women are turned off by behaviours that used to be considered male.
So, how can you be a man that women want?
Of course, there is no one-size-fits-all response to this topic because every woman has distinct desires. Of course, what constitutes husband material in Los Angeles, California may differ significantly from what forms husband material in Mobile, Alabama.
However, there are a few universally appealing principles that women are drawn to. So, here’s how to be the kind of man that women want, admire, and even love.
Spend some time getting to know yourself before jumping into another relationship. Examine what you value, what brings you joy, what doesn’t serve you, and so on. Nothing is more enticing than a man who understands who he is, what he wants, and what he doesn’t want.
How to Be a Man: Figure out who you are and what you want, then take control of it.
Rather than trying to be Prince Charming in the hopes of attracting ladies, be unabashedly yourself.
Be upfront if you’re solely seeking for a sexual companion right now. If you want to be in a relationship but know you’re introverted and require a lot of alone time. Tell them right away when you start dating.
Not only will this help you avoid future relationship troubles. But it will also help you meet women who want you for who you are, not the door-holding, sweet-talking, sweater-wearing guy you were trying to be in order to win her over.
Of course, owning who you are does not imply stubbornly clinging to your flaws rather than attempting to improve them. It’s one thing to tell a dating partner that you like to drink with your boys on weekends to unwind. It’s quite another to tell her that you have a drinking problem. And that she’ll have to tolerate that if she wants to date you.
Become curious about why you are the way you are and why you keep repeating the same dating patterns. To truly understand what makes you, you, it may be beneficial to chat with a certified therapist.
It’s lot easier to find a spouse who understands you when you know yourself. One of the nicest aspects of being in love is having a spouse who truly understands you.
Be the type of man who can look after himself (or, of a woman)
Gender roles have shifted, allowing us to rethink who should be the earner, who should cook, and who should raise the children.
However, most women still desire a man who can take care of them in some capacity, whether biologically or not. This doesn’t have to imply monetarily, even though numerous studies still suggest that women wantspouses with excellent earning potential.
Consider yourself a man who can think on his feet, be resourceful, and have a backup plan.
Let’s imagine you’re on a road trip and you hit something sharp that punctures one of your wheels. Are you able to change a tyre? Great! But, if you can’t, can you phone AAA and explain where you are and what you require? Can you keep a cheerful outlook while you and your partner wait for the repairman? Can you help your spouse relax if she’s worried about missing the wedding you were supposed to attend?
To be a male, you don’t need to know how to change a tyre. However, I believe that most women would agree that what they want in a man is someone who can handle adversity.
In the case described above, a woman could change the tyre, call AAA, and even calm down if she was stressed. However, many women feel that they are constantly in charge of damage control. And would prefer to date a man who can take care of things on occasion.
Work with, not against, your rage
Women are stereotyped as being overly emotional, while men are stereotyped as being extremely angry, however studies have shown that both men and women are equally emotional. The difference is that both genders have different ways of expressing emotions. Women are more likely to cry or express vulnerability than men, who are more likely to punch a hole in the wall or yell.
Of course, these are just generalisations, and each person is unique. If you’re a man who gets upset easily, the solution isn’t to suppress your emotions and fury altogether. Instead, find a healthy outlet for your rage, such as martial arts or exercise, or a creative outlet like painting or drumming, or whatever feels right to you and isn’t harmful to others.
Simultaneously, work on becoming more aware of your emotions as a means of releasing pent-up rage or bad sensations.
When done with confidence and honesty, being vulnerable may be extremely enticing to a woman. If you’re lonely and want to see the woman you’re dating, here is the place to go. Please inform her about this. Not only will your needs be satisfied, but your partner will most likely be honoured that you are able to open yourself to her and that she is given the opportunity to look after you.
Of course, if you’ve shown her that you can take care of her, she’ll be more willing to do the same for you.
Apply the same principles to sex as you did before. Do not be embarrassed by your fantasies, wants, or quirks. Allow yourself to be open to new experiences in order to discover what truly excites you.
Take the time to develop a close relationship with someone so you can fully open up in bed. That, believe me, is what will keep a woman coming back (and also, the other kind of coming).
It’s not about sleeping with as many women as possible; it’s about being a sexual person who pleases his partner before, during, and after intercourse. Someone who isn’t afraid to snuggle or do something “unmanly” when it comes to sex if that’s what he’s after.
And, of course, one who can communicate well.
Read the room and learn to work in a variety of settings.
According to studies, women are significantly more emotionally intelligent than men.
This could be why, more often than not, it’s women who are perplexed as to why men refuse to “take a hint.”
Learn to read the room, read a woman’s indications, and react accordingly if you want to be a man whom women respect and admire.
Simply inquire if you’re still having trouble reading a woman’s signs.
“Hey, are you still interested in going out with me?” is quite OK. If that is not the case, I completely understand.” If you’re already in a situationship, you may say something like. “I know we just started dating, and I don’t want to break any boundaries. So if you don’t mind sharing, I’d like to know what you’re comfortable with sexually.”
On the other hand, every woman desires a man who can blend in with any circumstance. In fact, I’d argue that both men and women desire a spouse who can support them at a high-end business dinner, a best friend’s midwestern wedding, or a rugged vacation gone bad.
How can you become someone like this?
Meet new people, try new things, travel, and put yourself in unusual circumstances.
Social awareness and emotional intelligence develop as a result of experience. Relationships that are healthier, happier, and more harmonious are a result of emotional intelligence.
Make every effort to be the finest man you can be.
While I can’t tell you what your cute coffee shop barista is looking for in a man. I can tell you that the more content you are with yourself, the more likely you are to attract Ms. Right (or just Ms. Right Now).
Instead of focusing on how to be the kind of man that women want, consider focusing on improving yourself. And your current connections, even if they are only with your friends, family, and yourself. There’s always room for progress and learning, and the proper woman will drool over a man who strives to improve every day.