There’s no denying it: breakups are painful, even when they’re handled with care. They have the ability to shake you to your core, making you question your self-assurance as well as your confidence in love. You’re dealing with the very real ache of rejection on top of mourning a lost love if you’ve been dumped. When you’re the one who made the decision to end things, guilt is often mixed in with your misery. A split is an ending, even in the most amicable, mutual situations, and we’re encouraged to feel that an ending is a failure in a culture that prioritizes “forever” as a relationship ideal.

Breakups, in actuality, are frequently the jarring prelude to a new and better life (one that may eventually involve a relationship with someone with whom you are more compatible). However, you have every right to be inconsolable during those first few trying days and weeks. You will, however, be able to progress if you have patience.

Allow yourself to grieve for a while.

Consider eliminating your ex’s phone number rather than staying pals.

If it’s not required, don’t contact your ex.

Do not return to them.

Continue to write.

Make plans with your friends.

Allow yourself to be immersed in your experience.

Make a playlist for your breakup.

Without them, rebuild the future.

Discover yourself anew.

Invest some time in an excellent book.

With a fresh workout, you can keep it (and yourself) going.

Travel to various new places and learn about different cultures.

Make a list of what you’ve learned.

Allow yourself to let go of the “what ifs” and blunders.

Don’t jump into dating too quickly.

Reconsider how you define “closure.”

Finally, forgive when you’re ready.